Why Traditional Talk Therapy Won’t Give You The Healing and Symptom Resolution You’re Looking For
As I make this transition in my practice, I’ve been reflecting on how passionate I am about this work. How deeply I trust in the modalities I’ve trained in and the approach I strive to embody as a therapist.
Here’s what I know to be true:
For many of us, traditional talk therapy falls short.
That’s because there’s only so far that insight can take us.
All of my clients are already insightful.
They’re deep thinkers and deep feelers. They’re self-aware, reflective, empathic, capable, and smart. They know their patterns. And still—they feel stuck, or unseen, or they’re hurting.
In my work, I see every day how real change doesn’t come from just talking about what hurt us—but from experiencing something different:
In the body. In the relationship. In the nervous system.
This is why I’m an attachment therapist.
This is why I’m a somatic therapist.
This is why I’m a trauma therapist.
And here’s what that really means:
The Relationship is the Repair
When we work together, our relationship is real. It’s so important to me that I see you, I understand you, and I hold whats hurting with you. That’s because the research is clear:
The biggest predictor of emotional resilience isn’t what happened to you—it’s whether someone was there for you.
In fact, research tells us that what makes something “traumatic” isn’t about the threat itself, it’s about an absence of connection during that threat.
This is why we heal in relationship. Human connection is not optional, it’s fundamental to survival, emotional development, and psychological wellbeing.
When we get to feel what co-regulation and safe attuned relationship are like in therapy, we rewire our capacity for safe relationships and emotional resilience in the world.
2. The Body Remembers What the Mind Forgets (or Hides)
Talk therapy works with the thinking brain. But trauma, stress, fear, sadness, grief, etc. are all live deeper— in the body. It shows up in your heart rate, breath, muscle tension, posture, and survival responses.
There’s always a story being told through the body. That story is so important.
Often, it’s the part of the story we can’t say.
When we slow down and pay close attention to what’s happening beneath the surface, we access what needed to be expressed—but never had the chance. And we make room for something new to happen now.
3. We Don’t Just Process—We Re-pattern
Healing isn’t just about saying “that was hard.”
It’s about getting to experience something different.
In session, this might look like:
Noticing what safety feels like in your body
Expressing grief, anger, or joy that was once silenced
Being met with warmth when you expect rejection
These are reparative moments. And over time, they reshape your nervous system, shift your self-perception, and expand your capacity for trust, connection, and aliveness.
